She has to go through a pregnancy no matter what (assuming she doesnt believe in abortion). I love the argument that the women receiving child support are just sipping margaritas all day while getting mani/pedis on this income. April 9, 2012, 7:03 pm, Wait, whoops, no. Im not so sure why he isnt allowed to be angry at her decision to keep the baby.
iseeshiny Heres the fact: LW, you dont get a say in what this woman does, and neither does your boyfriend. I never really got over him and he never got over me. It;s an even bigger dickish move, dare I say cuntish move to fucking LIE about being on the pill to get knocked up Or maybe shes just a fucking idiot and cant figure out how to follow the directions on a prescription bottle. I dont believe in forcing people to become parents either. bittergaymark Healthy relationships don't come from a situation like this.. i am currently in an awful situation. But really, no one knows his true reaction. Holy hell, this guy sounds like a dick. At conception there is a zygote, then an embryo and then a fetus. She loved him back then but broke up with him over this but went back to him 20 years later thinking he grew up.2016. And now onto you, ummmm you say he cant bare to be without you and never loved anyone as much as he loves you.well his actions sure say otherwise. I could understand that he would be shocked and unhappy, but who does that? You have no opinion in this matter. April 9, 2012, 10:12 am. I know you may not have that much faith in women based on your comments (here and on previous posts) but just look at what the women on this page have written. If there is no child at conception
There is a chance it isnt his. So, then, women should always have to accept that theyre pregnant because they had sex and then have the child whether they want to or not? April 9, 2012, 12:08 pm. Whoever is saying otherwise is simply wrong. I had no idea most women hated it. I just feel sorry for the pregnant girl. You are talking as if a decision to terminate a pregnancy is as easy as taking out the garbage, as if there are no consequences to it whatsoever. Remember that episode when Rachel told Ross she was pregnant and he freaked out because they used condoms? I think Dan Savage an Santorum have some sexual tension though. theQuietOne Why you ask? So society got together and decided that the biological parents owe a duty of monetary support to children the create. I get from the tone of your letter that you are bitter. SpaceySteph Well, its possible that he didnt know her at all, but then after coitus he began to get to know her and things went downhill from there. Landygirl, I think we should stop feeding the trolls. LADIES he could stand her. Youre wrong. He wants to get back with the LW (again, apparently). April 10, 2012, 10:27 am, Okay Well, I dont believe the LW has a right to be mad at anyone, simply because her and her boyfriend were broken up when this happened. Hes scum all around in my book. Then, after giving him an ultimatum to get it together or lose you, you felt it best to move away and hoped he would run after you. It takes two to make a baby. He could be upset (and who wouldnt be) if he didnt want it but she was keeping it anyway. Susie is lost. My mother taught me better than that. He is doing alot better. Regret can feel even worse than heartbreak. Unless Im sure the guy will make it worth my while, Im not going to do it. This is clearly a heated topic, so Im not sure were all being purely logical about it. Continuing along the lines of what John Rohan said above (maybe way above, because Im at work and my reply will take some time to type surreptitiously): The LW and the guy broke up. 12, 14, and 16 year old girls are statutorily raped, too, and their rapists? And that isnt fair either. If it is hers you bet she supports it. hamster van beethoven What the LW needs to do is take a deep breath, wait a long time for this situation to resolve, and then decide what she wants to do. OK, this is going to be longer than it should, but I have reactions to several things. So, if you insist that men create children, or even assist in such a thing, you are some kind of slimy pro-lifer meddling in the affairs of independent women who need men like a fish needs a bicycle. If she does your boyfriend will deal with the aftermath of having sex without a condom. Well, custody deals with life choices (what school they go to, what religion theyre raised as, what kind of medical treatments they get, etc.). Furthest from the vagina, just saying. That woman, Kaihla Rettinger, gave birth to the model-turned-Midtown South cop's son on Nov. 5, Radar reported three days after McLoughlin, 27, met Lambert, 35, while she was performing on . bittergaymark The timing was exactly right. But thats a crime? Im pretty surprised by some of the stances shes made on this thread and I do enjoy and almost always agree with her comments. Weird question. Going through a breakup can be tough.It can leave you feeling restless and struggling to fill the white space left behind by the relationship. The you made your choice when you had sex argument goes both ways. I find it absurd that there is a debate about this guys right to have unprotected sex as if its ever a good idea. Really!? It makes sense that she would do everything she could to convince us that this other woman wanting to keep the child is the worse thing ever because theyre obviously meant to be and this childs existence is a testament to the fact that their (former and/or current) relationship wasnt/isnt perfect. Other times, breakups are not so obvious, and that can leave you questioning your decision. Oh wow, that was longer than I expected. I want to get angry but I don't know if it's considered cheating. illinois obituaries 2020 . She looked enough to bang, though, huh? MOA, ASAP. April 9, 2012, 1:15 pm. Women can choose whether to bind a man to support their child without the mans discretion. In fact, it may not even be anger you feel, but hurt or you feel threatened by this pregnancy. Can I just say that would bother me a lot. Has she tried to convince him to come back to her? Guy Friday P.S. And to the LW your boyfriend is not the victim in all of this. February 6, 2017, 4:03 pm, Simalar to me.. we fell inlove from schol at 15 we kiss at 16 sex at 21 we separated for 5mths he saw another girl and she lie told him she was pregnant..she moved in his parents house..i said goodbye he came begging me ..he dont love her.tears tears .. the next month her period came her lie came in the openshe never left ..i have since moved on ..25yrs to dated he still beging me to come backi played a game with him recently ..i said i would leave my husband would u leave your wifeto be with mehe said yes yesdo u have money to buy a house for me like what u did for her.the silence was deafing.i hang up the phone.. playersmove on leave him alone, lets_be_honest We still cant quite manage partheogenesis or budding. But there is no ensuring that the child is cared for in an adoption. We do know that the guy in question didnt use a condom (as you yourself pinted out elsewhere, LW would have def. At the time, he said he would wait years for me - until he could be with me. Sorry to be so long-winded but it happens sometimes. One of the draw backs of only knowing someone for a short period of time. Now if the issue remains private without government involvement, then no problem as long as she keeps to their agreement. I dont think the actual equality is as you think it is, but even if I agree that it is, it has nothing to do with what happens early on in a pregnancy. April 9, 2012, 9:39 pm. Although I cant decide if shes purely a straight-up C.U.N.T. But the issue is when he decided not to pull out but bust a load into a strangerhe took on that risk of possibily having the responsibility to pay for a kid for the next 18 years. We learned that in middle school. April 9, 2012, 5:52 pm, Sounds to me like your sister isnt so much unlucky, but a liar. Three babies? Lets start a familyyou know, if the condom doesnt work. Is the same thing going through a womans mind when she decides to have sex? Who then supports the child that the man made? Inc. Lee's Summit MO. Who are we talking about now? He has a responsibility to the baby, but thats as far as it goes. bittergaymark But I believe theres a definite difference. I mean, he loved the baby mama enough to get erected & to bang her & to just release evrything to make her pregnant, & what the fuck am I thinking?!?!? Its all the adults running away being irresponsible, generally stupid, and downright insane that make this situation such a mess. April 10, 2012, 10:14 pm, if a man has sex with a woman, they should be prepared to pay dearly for it for the rest of their lives. Girls can get caught up in emotions and run wild with feels sometime devilish innocent Established Member Established Members My Ex-girlfriend says she misses me. haha I agree. I dont know. And throwing money at her only covers one part of that. Im sure youll do a wonderful job! reader, lisa4mark+, writes (15 May 2008): A
Yeah, I believe that means he must be., I believe the definition of an immature asshole is a 40-year-old man who wont own up to his responsibility to be a father to the baby he had equal part in creating.. And hes a bigger idiot if he doesnt think hes responsible for whats happening to him now. Now its your turn to sit in her chair, Dr. Sherry,My fianc cheated, we broke up but then got back together. Where the issue comes in is who physically is around the child more, which is placement, which though there has been progress tends to err on the side of the mother still, with all other things being equal. ele4phant John Rohan Welp, he didnt run after you, and instead he ran to another woman for comfort and now she is pregnant. Wow..two mintueswhen did he realize he couldnt stand her before or after the two minutes? And that, fair or not, men do not have the option to compel an abortion or opt out of their financial obligation for any resulting children. Even if she was lying about being on birth control. SEX WITHOUT A CONDOM!!! Everyone I know, including myself, that is not ready to have a child uses a condom or doubles up on protection, or makes sure that the pill is taken on damn regular basis. lets_be_honest Im happy to have found a father in my father-in-law, who has really become the dad I never had in that he loves me, supports me, listens to me, and even spoils me, haha! Problem. He doesnt want to be with you. But woman, grow the hell up. But the LW could be using selective words to paint him in a certain light, such as replacing upset with furious. So me making it a laid-back scenario is no more absurd than making it a scenario where he a shitty human. The system you propose that if conception is not by mistake and if the man does not decide early on that he doesnt want to be responsible, then he should be obligated to that child is the craziness system ever. And I appreciate that he made his decision and stuck with it, instead of deciding to drop in and out whenever he felt like. The entire letter reeked of entitlement. And John, be real for a moment, and honestly tell me you jump in on a number of issues here and not to just defend your brethren who you perceive to be under attack. That was supposed to be a reply to Temperance, not ele4phant. WTF are you reading? lets_be_honest Youre reading waaaayyyy too much into what I said. But you were split up for 2 months and cant bear to live without each other yet he didnt waste any time jumping into bed with someone he barely knows? So, in other words, RR, it is a noble thing to give your child to strangers in the hope that he or she is treated well (that the adoptive parents wont abuse them, wont get divorced in a messy way, wont let them fend for themselves, and so on), even though youll have no interaction with that child again, but it is base and vile to have the same lack of interaction but to provide financial support which doesnt in any way affect the mothers ability to find a partner that is right for her.